Monday, January 20, 2014

Master Bedroom Re-do: The Negotiations

I remember the first time we looked at this house in mid-July. I was in awe. We were currently living in a 900 square foot rental and I was just taken back from all of the space. Everything in the house had been updated, I just had to figure out a way to furnish it.

As we were going through the house, I remember Chris asking me if I liked this or that. I loved everything. Wouldn't change a thing. We wouldn't have to spend a dollar on paint, drywall, light fixtures, because everything was perfect. This is why we bought a house and the tippity top of our price range.

And now I am calling myself out as a big fat liar. I don't like the colors of the kitchen, laundry room, living room, sitting room, foyer, or the master. I don't like the glass top stove. I don't like the kitchen back splash. I don't like custom window treatments from the 90's. I want to change it all. 

But Chris isn't a handy man and I am not someone with even a pea-size of patience, so we are very limited. At the very top of my list of things I can't handle anymore is the master bedroom. It is baby freaking blue. It looks like a college apartment because the only thing that is in the bedroom is the bed itself and some boxes of clothes. 

When we moved out of our last house, I donated a dresser. And by donated, I mean drug it to the alley, where someone stripped it of all its hardware and left it to rot in the rain. I thought a new master bedroom set would be at the top of shopping list. But instead we had to buy couches, kitchen furniture, a lawnmower, new vacuum, three light fixtures, furniture for Haven, all of that new shit that is perfectly fine at your last house but you can't fathom bringing to your new house stuff.



So all of our dresser contents have been in boxes, next to our bed. And being the all or nothing person that I am, I didn't even want to hang a mirror on the wall until we painted. I didn't want to paint until we found a bed spread we liked, and I didn't want to buy bedding until I new what kind of headboard I wanted, and I wasn't going to buy a headboard until we decided on a bedroom set.

But in the five years we've been married, I have realized that bitching gets me nowhere. Yelling does, but daily little nags do nothing. I've learned that if I need buy-in, I need Chris to think that this is his idea. That I am helping him.

Last week I was telling him that when we get the master re-done, that we should hang our flat screen on the wall.... how awesome it would be to mount the flat screen.... how great the picture is on the flatscreen...

And all of a sudden, that baby blue just wasn't appealing to Chris anymore. He wanted to finish up the bedroom so that we had "a little oasis." BARF.

We ended up going to the furniture store on Friday and picking out a large dresser. Then the sales guys tells us that the store is 10% off and tax-free, which makes me feel like I would be losing money if I didn't pick out a new headboard. Plus they deliver both items for one rate, which means that I won't have to emotionally abuse Chris as he carries it up the stairs and scratches my walls. My walls

We painted the bedroom on Friday night and he mentioned 506 times how great the TV was going to look on the accent wall. So now I just have to find an incentive to get the foyer and middle floor painted by a professional or someone sober with a ladder. Both are hard to come by.

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Now if you want to meet some crafty women, please check out Tori and Erica!



Tori from Jane Not So Plain is a gorgeous gal from St. Louis. She has a whole page on her blog dedicated for DIY projects. One of her 2014 goals is to mount a TV on the wall, so I will let her practice at her place first before she comes mounts mine for me. Tori is one of my daily reads because she posts something different everyday. I also love her fitness and running posts. Please head over and check out Tori's blog HERE and be sure to add her to your bloglovin' feed by clicking HERE



Also, Erica from Mommy Erica is a lady after my own heart. She does PR for Target, takes amazing photos, and can throw a kids birthday party like MTV Sweet 16. She is really, really talented. I also love her recipe posts. Erica is also a fantastic writer and I think a lot of moms will relate to her writing style and how she juggles work and family. Head over and say hello to Erica HERE and be sure to add her awesome pinterest boards HERE

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Who is ready for the January blues to be over?


34 comments:

  1. The first thing we did in our house was paint every room. We wanted it to feel more like "ours". I got to pick every color and I still love love love them....except my daughters room. I wanted a lighter brown and it turned out a pukey orange brown ugh. Now she's begging us for purple or pink but I don't know if I can emotionally handle a color like that! What do you think of pink or purple walls?

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  2. I love how you highlight different bloggers on each of your posts.

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  3. It's funny how shit gets done when they think it's their idea. :)

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  4. i'm lucky in that my husband does all the decorating because i have zero creative skils. if it were up to me, we'd have bare walls with nothing on them!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  5. Ha ha. It's true if it's their idea it's ok. Although my hubs and I are both handy so that saves some $$$ oh and he's a perfectionist so it has to be perfect. Lol. Can't wait to see the " after" it's all done. Or just have me over for drinks. Lol

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  6. I love to paint.. and I will work for booze and food. :)

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  7. This made me laugh - the movers just delivered our boxes a week and a half ago and Im at the point where I just want to either a) find a corner to rock in, b) drink a case of miller lite, or c) throw everything away and start fresh...in the middle of starting my next semester...thank god my husband knows how to deal with my crazy lady city :) I cant wait to see your finished product :)

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  8. I am the same. We have lived in our house for 7 years, and there is still shit in boxes and our Master still looks bare because we haven't hung anything on the walls because I want it perfect and we have no throw pillows on the bed and now we're possibly moving to another state so why do it now?

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  9. OMG I HATE the PAINTING! True story, I like tried to paint my bathroom this year, we live in a small rental condo, but my landlord is also my boss, so he's cool with it. I got the bright idea to paint the guest bathroom on a Saturday, which was bright blue, to a smokey gray. It turned out nice, but I mean, I was hanging from a ladder, am 5'2 on a good day, and almost broke my legs when the ladder decided to slide in the bathtub while I was hanging from the curtain rod. It was a nightmare, I will forever hire people to do that now.

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  10. I love the new paint color. We have had paint colors taped to our wall for a couple years. After having a baby last year, we are never going to get it done unless we hire someone.

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  11. Thanks for the blog call-out!
    Love the new wall, paint is the best therapy to make your house feel "fresh" without having to invest too much. I have to ask though - did you paint together? Every time we try to paint together at my house ... guaranteed to end in a fight! What is your secret? :)

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  12. I love when I can plant the "idea seed" and make Jason think it was his idea...best way to get things done, ever!

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  13. Until I opened the Centre I now work at I had never painted walls before - we just always hired someone to do it at home. After accidentally painting the ceiling, outlets, baseboards, and light switches I realized why its better to hire someone!

    You better show us what the room looks like once its finally made into 'a little oasis'! LOL

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  14. Looks good!! The same thing happened to me. We bought our house in August. I loved everything!!! And now...ggrrrrr. They had painted everything and put in new carpet. I'm a very neutral person so the off white walls were perfect. We would not paint anything!! Until now. Everything is the same color!! The kitchen is by far the worst. I can't wait to get some of these walls painted now!!

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  15. Hahaha! Love the idea of making it his idea. Works wonders :) Love the new color!

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  16. You were smart to buy a house you didn't think needed anything, even if it ended up needing some stuff. We did the opposite and bought a fixer-upper and even though my husband is pretty hand it has been a trip through the icy bowels of Hades. NEVER AGAIN. Also, post some pics of your room now!!!

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  17. I normally hate change, but there is something about re-doing a room that just makes you feel good! Glad y'all are gettin' it done!

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  18. I love painting. Will paint for beer.

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  19. I feel ya. The whole bedroom set situation. The paint. The updates wanted... but that seem way off the path of possible. I have things in boxes in our basement that I've found great deals on for decor and I refuse to hang them up until I can paint. But I don't want to pick out paint until I can also pick out new flooring. And if I'm going to take all this "old" stuff out, why bother put the old stuff back in? So yeah... can't have it all therefore I have nothing! Lol. I'm glad you have been able to start making some changes and got a new dresser! Yay for no more boxes in the bedroom! A flat screen will be amazing too! Enjoy! :)

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  20. And then send the sober guy with the ladder to Tennessee because my ass has been to cheap and determined to do it ourselves to hire someone lol

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  21. We moved into a house that has to be pretty much completely renovated, so even though we moved in at the end of August we still live out of boxes and have random pieces of furniture in random rooms.... so frustrating to not feel settled. And I'm just like you in that I don't want to do XXX until YYY is completed, etc. Good luck! Home Improvement sucks ass. Not the show Home Improvement, bc that show was awesome. Just the act of improving a home... Ok, I"m rambling. Happy Tuesday!

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  22. Can't wait to see all of your hard work.. I bet it looks great. I still have a ton of things I wanna get done in my house...but yet I still sit here and continuing reading blogs.

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  23. I'm an "all or nothing" kinda gal too and being this kind of person isn't only frustrating but can be expensive too haha ...I'm happy you at least got your bedroom done the way you like it ...good luck on the rest of the house ;)

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  24. This is hilarious. I've lived with most of our house these past few years because it was B's when we moved in, but I'm over it. This year is already bringing major changes. He finally (after 3 years) agreed to paint but we couldn't find the perfect color so right now they're primered white. They're better than what we had but he better not think they're staying that way 'cause they're not.

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  25. If I know you, you're going all out and the bedroom is going to be fabulous, cannot wait to see it!

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  26. "His" ideas are the best ideas aren't they? That color is pretty! I'd love to see the completed "oasis"!

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  27. Love the new color, it is much more you. I have been wanting to paint over the purple walls in our bedroom since I moved in, and yet it hasn't happened yet. I'm pretty sure I'm just going to have to do it myself.

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  28. I hate every color in every room of our house too. We have been in our house for a year and a half, we have 4 dressers in our room (none matching) and NO closet. On top of those 4 dressers are closet clothes, that use to be folded and are now thrown spuratically. It drives me INSANE (like looney bin insane) have tried every single incentive out there and none are working for my handyman husband. The next step I have... contracting it out. If I had the confidence to build a closet myself I would. I will be painting my room... and not the ugly "country" blue we currently have.

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  29. Gulf Shores is a good time. There's all kinds of stuff to do and food to eat. Also, there's a big outlet shopping mall in Foley, AL (30-45 minutes north of Gulf Shores). We always stop in there on our drive back up. I think most of us are experiencing SAD, but good for you for focusing on happier things!

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